Bad dates online dating sites
I came across more than one case in which the main reason for their divorce seemed to be that their wife had made the mistake of ageing.I had whole Sundays in my pyjamas, trawling one site after another determined to find someone kind-looking and interesting to talk to.
There was: ‘Not wanting to sound ungallant but there are lots of pretty girls here.’ There was: ‘I had a look at your pictures and I’m not going to do that again.The hours would go by and I’d find it was tea-time and the dog desperate.Ocassionally, I’d fend off approaches from the leg-over merchants who hadn’t even introduced themselves but sent out ‘how about it darlin’, you have sexy eyes; I bet you have squeezable thighs’ type of messages.I met a man in a pub one night and, civilities over, there was genuinely nothing to talk about. He got his own Americano and left me to get mine and talked for 20 minutes about the many times he’d seen U2 in concert.Out on the pavement, he said: ‘It was good to meet you; good luck with it.’ We smiled and parted.There’s nothing wrong with being a radiant spinster, too busy with her fulfilling life to miss having a partner, but it just wasn’t what I wanted.
I tried meeting someone in real life, as my mother suggested.
I’d been with my ex since university, long before the world of dating sites; would I survive the competitive online catalogue?
Starting online dating was like getting into a space rocket and being sent to a whole other planet.
She was tall, no longer slender, and time and sadness had taken their gentle toll, although on the plus side she had knockout wrists and ankles.
It wasn’t just the outcome that worried me but the psychological toughness I’d need.
Ever.’ There was: ‘I’d never go out with a woman who describes herself as independent or ambitious.’Even a male friend said: ‘You are going to need to lose some weight, wear red and grow your hair if you want the silver foxes to see you.’ But I wasn’t interested in a man who wanted to know my vital statistics before meeting, so rejection by those people didn’t hurt at all.