Biosocial theory invalidating environment
Men probably get victimized disproportionately often compared to the straight/gay ratio because society views harassing women as horrible but harassing men as funny.If this theory is right then it’s men who are the structural victims, which means it’s your harassment that doesn’t count and you’re the ones who shouldn’t be allowed to talk about it.
The Guardian writes about Men Who Are Silent After #Me Too, and the Washington Post about how Some Men Disagree About What Counts As Sexual Harassment.By freak coincidence I came across this story from last month where Mariah Carey’s bodyguard accused her of sexually harassing him.Carey is much higher-profile than most of the men involved.The obvious explanation for gender differences in harassment has always been that men constitute 80% of sexual harassers for the same reason they constitute 83% of arsonists, 81% of car thieves, and 85% of burglars.Since most men are straight, most victims are women; when the men happen to be gay, they victimize men.Opinium, which sounds like a weird drug, reports 20% of women vs. You Gov poll in Germany finds 43% of women and 12% of men.
The overall rates vary widely depending on how the pollsters frame the question, but the ratio is pretty consistent. The best I can find is this Australian study finding that 21% of harassers are women. I’m less confident on this one, but 20% seems like a conservative guess.
The story is that women are always victims and totally understand exactly what’s going on, and men are always perpetrators with their fingers in their ears denying that a problem exists.
We are told to worry about Why Women Don’t Report Sexual Harassment (against themselves) but about Why Men Don’t Speak Up About Sexual Harassment (that they see happening against women). Our society already has an answer to this, and in every other case, the answer is no.
But she didn’t even publish an apology, or a denial, or try to pick holes in his story.
She just assumed nobody would care – and she was right.
I requested a geographic posting to get away from that lunatic and get an investigation underway but I was told by my WO that “these things happen for a reason”. It was pretty uncomfortable and I felt kinda vulnerable.