Dating a guy 5 years younger
For example, I’d co-habitated with my ex for 5 years.He had yet to experience this kind of relationship.
Returning to “the list,” a conservative Christian man probably would not like being married to a a Christian feminist woman.A few weeks ago I came across a blog post titled 10 Women Christian Men Should Not Marry. It advised against marrying women who are not followers of Christ, as well as women who love to gossip or slander. As for the rest of the list, I cannot agree with much of it–mostly because his “types” are only bad stereotypes, which isn’t very helpful.However, I was surprised and then a little bit tickled when I discovered this type of women at #3: “The Older Woman.” Under this category, the author explained that marrying an older woman is not a sin, but it’s also not “God’s ideal.” He goes on to reason that it “requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you.”As his scriptural justification he cited Adam and Eve: “God intentionally (with good reason! Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority!Too often they reflect more about the list-maker’s personal preferences than solid biblical counsel.You can spot this mistake when a list focuses on certain expressions of a virtue or vice, rather than the virtues or vices themselves.He always made me feel respected and wanted, and never let me feel “old.” Our breakup was mature.
Maybe this is more a testament to who he is as a person than age, but this was one of the easiest, most mature breakups I’ve ever been through. Although I now can see how mismatched we were, the experience has taught me not to judge a book by it’s freshly minted cover.
However, when it came to communication and just how he treated me in general, this guy was years ahead of some of his 30-something male counterparts. It was such a relief to date someone who wasn’t jaded.
After dating a divorced dad of three and an angry finance guy with a drinking problem, spending time with someone who didn’t have a lot of emotional baggage or a negative view of the world was such a welcome relief. With almost a decade on my side, I definitely had way more dating experience.
With that said, he never judged me for my experiences.
He understood and listened with thoughtful curiosity.
But that does not mean ALL Christian men should avoid marrying Christian feminists, anymore than ALL men should avoid marrying older women.