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Dating a loner girl

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I love my alone time and am completely comfortable with being alone but I have been finding lately that I want a friend or someone who isn’t my mother to connect with and have a meaningful relationship with. When I find myself wanting this I tend to isolate myself until the feeling goes away but it always comes back worse than before.If I am fine with my alone time how can I want to form a bond with someone so strongly?

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Nothing wrong with being a loner, unless you simply lack social skills that keep you from mingling with society, then perhaps it's time to focus on that before trying to meet someone special. Women like to be liked, they like to be popular, they like to be well-thought of. Sorry, I can't go out on the town with someone who is anti-social. Each of us has unique characteristics that won't be understood by the majority of people.Going out into the world and “extroverting” yourself not only feels inauthentic and tiring, but it also feels hopeless and dead-ended.I know that when I first started the dating game a few years back I felt as though I was putting myself up in the “meat shop” of modern relationships, and the feeling was completely unnerving.But you don’t need to extrovert-yourself, go to pubs and clubs, or download Tinder (or other modern dating apps) to find people you can connect with.And you don’t need to feel paradoxical or unfaithful to yourself.Mostly the feelings of loneliness for me are equated with a desire for romantic partner but also other connections are missing, too.

I don’t have any friends (I don’t mean that in a light way, I really don’t have any) and I am single.

As a loner (or the nicer term is “introvert”) myself, I can relate to these feelings – and today I want to help you out.

Being a loner and wanting to find love can feel like self-sacrilege, or at the very least extremely unsettling and uncomfortable.

Here is what I’ve learned that you can find out for yourself as well: Being a loner doesn’t mean that you are exempt from your evolutionary, biological cravings.

Although you might feel separate or somehow self-sufficient, you are nevertheless inextricably linked to others.

Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. If you are considering meeting a girl and she tells you she's more of a loner, is that a red flag? Do you prefer girls who are more outgoing and friendly with other people? I have found that the men that I am the most attracted to or is the most attracted to me fits into the same category. She may feel comfortable enough with herself that she may not feel a need to use social situations to validate her sense of self. Someone who is comfortable in a social setting, treats others well, yet also is comfortable enough with herself so she can enjoy and appreciate solitude. I'm not sure about most guys but to me that would sound like she's either been hurt or like most probably just tired of kissing frogs so to speak.