Dating and waiting for marriage
She adds that managing desires isn't just for the single/dating years."Sexual desire is going to remain throughout your life," Dr. "Singles often believe that the sexual desire switch turns off in marriage, and they are attracted only to their spouse.
He blessed them, and one of the first commands He gave them was to "be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis -28).When our sexual selves are the focus, we lose who we are as whole people.If we can learn to see ourselves body, soul and spirit, it becomes easier to save your whole self for marriage," she says.When I typed out these words as an idea for an article on abstinence, I realized this was a difficult topic to get people talking about.When I asked my peers to share their stories, few were virgins with no sexual history, and even fewer wanted to talk about it. Recounting my own sin made me feel like the chief of hypocrites.Truth is, even in marriage, you have to rein in your sexual desire and allow it to be fulfilled with your spouse in a loving consensual encounter.
Part of dating and learning to bring your sexual desire under submission is simply training ground for marriage." Managing sexual desires begins with realizing that we can't do it on our own.
Passion can build inside of you much like stress or tension can, and it's important to control that passion before it controls you.
For some that means avoiding sexually charged movies, books, television and anything else that puts you in the mood.
We must learn how to say "no" to our sexual desires even if it's unpopular and difficult. Jessica Mc Cleese of the Krist Samaritan Center in Houston, Texas.
She has studied Christian sex therapy for the last four years. Mc Cleese noted that much of our issue with managing desire is that we've made our desires too important.
There seemed to be a special connection between them that made me wonder, It started me on a quest to discover what I call "practical abstinence." All of the "true love waits" messages mean nothing if they can't be put into practice.