Dating for men in their 30s
Sometimes men in their thirties will shut down after an argument and wish to stop talking about the issue while a woman of the same age will wish to talk about the fight until the problem is resolved.
And some of them are finding that being single at 34 is not as much as fun as it was at 27, bringing about an existential crisis that, in many ways, mirrors the fears that have been exhaustively chronicled about single women in legions of books and television shows.For both men and women, social circles begin to shrink around age thirty, and they begin to look at a potential life partner as the primary means of socialization.A woman in her thirties is reaching her reproductive peak, and may be more self-assured and aggressive than when she was in her twenties. However, women of this age group may also have trouble trusting men because of past relationship disappointments.Men, too, are concerned about the lack of options as they get older, falling behind their peer group and, now, their biological clock, brought on by a rash of new research and attention to the health risks of older fatherhood.“I see the vast majority of my single guy friends wishing they weren’t,” said Ben Lerer, 32, founder of Thrillist Media Group, an e-commerce site focused on young men.“I think it’s just as acute as the female angst about being single,” he said.He is desperately looking for someone to love, a girlfriend.
He is so fearful of being alone,” said Lerer, who tied the knot at 28.
“In your twenties, you think you are just going to live forever,” said 35-year-old Jonathan Yevin, owner of the Brooklyn-based landscape company M. Call it ‘mangst” or “manxiety.” Either one describes the bouts of anxiety single guys in their thirties feel about their marital status.
“But then you get to a point where you see an old dad and you think, ‘I’m going to be that guy.’ That’s what a lot of my angst stems from,” said Yevin, who is not married but has a girlfriend.
There are differences in the way that men and women in their thirties show affection for one another.
A recent study published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that men who wanted to show love for their wives not only initiated physical contact but planned activities for the couple to enjoy together.
As with any age, communication between men and women can become strained, but for different reasons.