Dating saying too much too soon
If we're serious about following Christ, we will heed Paul’s instructions to “be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Start by asking God to purify your heart, your thoughts and your actions in a way that honors Him and brings honor, not pain, to your boyfriend/girlfriend.
At the reception we discovered with delight that the bride’s mother had arranged to seat all the single people at the same dinner table so we could “mingle.” “Who knows what might happen? It wasn’t long before we began a long-distance courtship, got engaged, and then married.Otherwise, you miss out on an important facet of the other person and discovering how he or she responds to the Lord.Wait to talk about a future together until you’ve taken the time to build a foundation of commitment and trust.But don’t let your dating relationship isolate you and keep you from enjoying time with other people.Keep interacting and participating in your existing relationships with family and friends on a regular basis.They are lovingly arranged in chronological order and tucked away in a shoebox in our storage shed.
Not long ago, I pulled out the shoebox and reread each letter, experiencing all over again the excitement of a new relationship, the uncertainty of reciprocated feelings and the hesitancy to let my heart run away with me.
And, the reward is that your life will resemble springs of living water!
Alisa Grace ('92) serves as a consultant to the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships where she also co-teaches a class on Christian perspectives on marriage and relationships.
Protect the deepest, most intimate parts of who you are both emotionally and spiritually.
“Be real, be genuine, and be honest,” adds Felita, “but never without the anchor of boundaries and the weight of wisdom.” It’s normal to want to spend more and more time with someone you enjoy.
Fileta calls this process “a journey of building trust.” She recommends that you take your time, allowing your relationship to go through the necessary seasons before allowing your conversation to jump ahead. Because where your conversation goes…your heart will go, too.