Dating someone avoidant personality disorder
I think that this guy is probably what he says which is avpd. I had a 7 months online relationship with a guy who suffers from avoidant personality disorder.
i couldn't get along with anyone more than i get along with him.i have been i guess you could say "dating" a guy for over a year.i just always figured he just wasn't that into me because he never calls me, he comes over to hang out but usually only once a week, we don't have sex, we rarely even kiss (2 times in the last year and both times he was drunk), often and will invite me over to hang out at his apartment maybe twice a month.That reminds me of the book and now movie, "He's not really that into you" I don't think that's the case. But he suddenly gave me his all, really let me know he loved me and believed in me. I have come so far from the person I was when I met him, the person who lacked self-esteem and just wanted to be loved. To honor his memory, I treat myself now as the person he loved in the end. Thank you so much for asking this question, I am going through the same thing.You are welcome to PM me anytime or keep posting here!! He became the perfect partner...selfless and relaxed. Those couple good months have become more powerful to me than the 13 years I spent distraught. I hope your guy wises up earlier than mine did but it can have a 'happy' ending, anyway, really. And what I found here has made me feel so much better, and given me a reference for moving forward! Cooperf, it's really nice to hear someone's benefitting from our early postings! Hope you'll come back and post how things are working out.Nice to meet you and look forward to hearing more from you and keep us posted!
Hugs, Camey anniewhitmore, I have total respect for Camey..knows what she's talking about and offers support w/open arms.
Over time, with the building of trust, he will open up more. It sounds like he's worth the wait and the patience it will take for him to really let you in.
It really sounds like he likes you..you said, about maybe he's not that into you. Now, four years after his death, I feel healed, ready for a 'healthy', fun relationship. Go in with your eyes open and it will be what it is.
recently, he's been coming over to my house a little more often and when he was over the other night he told me that he has avoidant personality disorder and that it keeps him from having conversations with people that he wants to have.
he was very vague so i asked for more information and he changed the subject completely.
As you can imagine from personal experience, we're not a very talkative group!! If it were up to me, I'd stay home and not talk to anyone. I have some very avoidant days but I'm starting to have more social days. He really wanted things to be different..of the time. I think that he would have wanted to treat me different all those years we were together, but he was afraid to change or too stubborn to change, who knows what. But, I know I couldn't find my way out of my relationship. You'd be surprised how many ppl you reach this way!