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Having only the best intentions, George’s parents took me on a three week cruise of the Baltics four months after he died.I sleepwalked through much of it, too tired to enjoy the fast-paced sightseeing and being out of my comfort zone.
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I tried dating a nice Jewish yogi lawyer (just like me) four months after losing George. Everything we did reminded me of something George and I had done or eaten or seen or hadn’t had the chance to do because his life had been cut short. I also had a lot of guilt over having been George’s caregiver.
I needed companionship NOW, which meant I needed it too much. I dated a couple guys who wanted me to change to meet their needs. But one year into my loss, I worried, “What’s wrong with me? ”If someone doesn’t recognize your wonderfulness, that’s their problem.
But when you’re feeling super vulnerable, being rejected is devastating.
But I was still too wounded and vulnerable, making me needy.
If my date cancelled or wasn’t available, I was plunged into despair.
The first year and a half, even two years, after my loss I was often exhausted.