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In this week's Sex Talk Realness, speaks with three twentysomething women about their (very different) experiences with Tinder. I realized I could spend hours swiping and some of the "DTF" or similar messages I was getting were creeping me out because that's not what I was on it for. Woman A: During that period I used it daily, if not multiple times a day. Woman A: Sometimes it was just a way to amuse myself by playing hot or not, or by trading silly messages with someone I never planned to meet up with. I found it dangerously useful for meeting men who lived in my neighborhood in NYC, which was really convenient when I was single and is annoying now that I see someone I met on Tinder every time I go to brunch. In five months I saved 10 dudes in my phone as "[First Name] Tinder." I maybe met up with eight of them? I like meeting new people and I don't see the point in using the app if you just want to text a stranger! Woman A: I had great luck and met lots of charming, smart, handsome dudes. Woman B: One of my most remarkable dates was with a man who invited me to the food court at his office building for a lunch date, and spent most of the time telling me about how he wanted to buy me beautiful lingerie and watch me try it on.
A lot of women are looking for something serious and have no interest in participating in your immature wager with friends. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30 The problem..the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully., like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it.Woman B: I've had a threesome with a couple I met on Tinder. Is their bio witty, and not just about working hard and playing hard? A lot of people fill up their description with things they don't want instead of things they do. For instance, I saw one guy who said he was into BDSM and I think this might be valuable info for someone, just not me. I met a choreographer that just moved here from the Midwest, an Australian lawyer in New York for a month, an Ivy-League dropout who spent half of each month in Paris...
I got the feeling they were trying to spice up their sex life to inject interest back into their relationship but I could tell from the get-go that there was hidden tension between them that they were battling with. When I was on Tinder I was very much enjoying being single and would have bolted immediately from anyone who indicated interest in a relationship. Do they live somewhere that isn't super-annoying to get to? Woman A: Bankers, models, shirtless pics, mirror pics, bios about how they love travel and experiencing new things. It's a real turn-off to see someone who looks interesting and attractive but who has written "skinny girls only" or "I'm sick of all these shallow girls wearing makeup." Who would want to be with someone who has such an ugly attitude? Woman B: I think you get out of it what you put in to it, and if you're willing to spend a bit of time swiping and talking, then you can actually meet some nice and genuine people.
By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
There’s obviously a reason she didn’t think it would work out, so why keep trying to pursue someone who is clearly not interested in you?
Instead, channel your energy into meeting someone else. A general rule: once you’ve sent four messages back and forth, someone should ask someone out — preferably the man. [pagebreak] PRESSURE COOKERThe scenario: “I was really into someone I went on a few dates with, until he told me he was taking down his online dating profile and he wanted me to do the same.” — Jess, 34 The problem..the solution: Nothing will scare a girl faster than putting that kind of pressure on her too early into the relationship.
A lot of you are self-conscious about the fact that you’re on a dating site.