Post divorce dating issues
And when you do get into a relationship after divorce, even if the guy is faithful to you and is madly in love with you, you may not believe anything he says.This can happen because in the back of your mind, you'll have this ongoing chorus playing: "All men are just like my ex-husband. All men fall out of love and break up with you." It plays like a country song accompanied by an out-of-tune guitar.
Did you spend enough time alone after your divorce to really think about what caused the collapse of your marriage?It's only when you answer this question that you can say goodbye to your baggage and hello to a wonderful new relationship.If you are newly divorced, you may have spent years in a marriage where you ignored all the red flags.They Avoid Conflict: Some people absolutely refuse to deal with an issue or problem in a relationship.They will avoid dealing with problems rather than face it directly.While your ex-husband likely played a part, did you have any destructive habits?
Blame is one of the most common destructive habits I've seen in couples.
First, ask yourself if the person you're with has the qualities you'd want in a long-term partner. Or is the physical attraction blinding you to how wrong you really are for each other?
Another question to ask: Am I happy alone even without a man in my life?
It will keep you from sailing, head first into disaster and another failed marriage.
No matter how good-looking and alluring your new “friend” may be those red flags tell the true story about who you are dating and dealing with. We all want to hang in there hoping things will change.
Whether you've already started dating after divorce, or you're about to take the plunge, chances are good you're going to be tempted to give in to three behaviors that will sabotage either your ability to move on from your marriage, or seriously reduce the chance you'll find a wonderful new man.