Rules for dating a married man
Some prefer the mistress-relationship-model, since it provides them with the fun side of companionship minus any of the traditional obligations of partnership.
Men who seek affairs: If you are not cut out for the monogamous model, do not deceive anyone into believing you are.A smart woman, however, should be able to tell, especially if she’s been going out with him for a few weeks. “It’s your cell” Married men will either keep their cell phones off while on a date, or will excuse themselves when it rings and say, “a client from out of town…” “Let’s meet at your place” Did you ever wonder why he’s always at your place but has never invited you to his?“You’re so vague…” A married man can’t afford to divulge too much about himself.But what if you didn’t know that the man you’re currently dating is married?While some men see no point to hiding the fact that they’re married, others will use every trick in the book to conceal it.So, my answer to this popular query is always the same: If it occurs in nature, then yes, it is natural. The more we understand and can identify patterns, the better we can cope and even evade the trauma associated with them.
And since extra-marital affairs have been in existence for just as long as the institution of marriage, I think it is time we stopped looking at affairs as heinous crimes and instead as a natural occurrences. Marriage was invented to legitimize offspring so that parents could pass down any assets acquired over their lifetime to heirs.
In the beginning, marriage was essentially a business transaction designed to increase the power, legacy, wealth and reputation of a family name.
Historically, extra-marital affairs were common, permissible and especially in the male’s case, not seen by the courts as substantial grounds for divorce.
Men produce more testosterone and less oxytocin than women.
Testosterone is responsible for sex drive and also compels the host to seek out dopamine, a chemical released by risk-taking and new experiences.
He won’t give you his home number (“call me on my cell”), tell you where he works (in case you decide to drop by for a surprise visit) or give you his real e-mail address.